Testimony of Jeanne, 32, who has had a surgical abortion.
Why did you make the decision for an abortion?
Because we already have 3 children and we really could not have a 4th one. On the one hand, our children are already big and independent, and on the other hand, we both have very busy jobs.
It was a very difficult decision to make and we thought for a long time. Too long. In the end it was the deadline that helped us to definitely make our decision.
How did the pre-abortion take place?
I called my gynecologist, I told him why I wanted to see him, because usually it happens months before getting an appointment. He took me urgently. He explained exactly how abortion was going to happen. At first, I was a little confused because I had an ultrasound that showed a little heart beat, and I had a moment of doubt. It quickly dissipated as soon as I remembered why I was doing this abortion. And then my doctor did not dwell on that.
It was a Monday, I had a meeting again on Friday. In the meantime I had time to reread the abortion protocol ten times. We discussed it with my husband. He did not want to take any responsibility, and I found him a little cowardly, but finally I realized that he too could suffer from this abortion, even if it was not him who saw him physically.
And abortion by aspiration?
The operation is not what marked me the most. We went to the clinic with my husband in the morning. I signed a paper saying that I was informed of the risks, that I knew that in case of failure, the pregnancy would be completed and that I understood, and that I agreed to have an abortion .
I was given tablets that "shot me". I do not remember very well in what order things happened, but around 16:00, I was at home.
What did you feel physically and psychically?
My stomach hurt, but especially my heart. Perhaps the effects of anesthesia and sedatives? I was arrested for 3 days and frankly it is not a luxury. My stomach hurt as for periods and I had bleeding for a good week. I was a little stunned ... Even if my decision was made even before having the result of the pregnancy test, I felt some sort of reminiscence of a collective bad conscience related to the fact that our mothers and grandparents mothers have lived. I do not know, .. Anyway, I willingly accepted a consultation with a psychiatrist, and it did me a lot of good.
And after ?
After ... well nothing. Life goes on and we do not regret this decision for a second. Recently, we've been up a little bit professionally, and we're going to be on our own. My husband told me about a small 4th.
I admit I did not close the door, because this baby would be expected, when we were not ready until then. I'm not sentimental, I have no regrets and to tell you everything, I do not even know how old it would be if I had kept it ...
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